We are living in times of the quincunx. Conflicts can lead to what we need: Connection.
Wars. Bad politics. Stollen elections. Aggressiveness. Toxic workplaces. Wasteful relationships. Betrayal. Chronic diseases. Divorces. Gender inequalities. Money problems. Floods and extreme weather patterns. Misusage of words. Misinformation. Hatred. And so much more. Let’s be honest, this is really how the world looks like right now for all of us.
Yes, there’s good. In us, in our families, workplaces, communities and romantic bonds.
But as an energy practitioner myself, I feel we are at a point in time when the bad has definitely overcome the good. It’s much more powerful and it’s been coagulated under our very noses. I feel we hardly hear each other anymore. Most of us and our inner lights can not be seen anymore. It’s like the bad is the only common thread that connects us now.
We are living in times of the quincunx. This sounds a bit weird, doesn’t it?
In astrology, quincunx (or inconjunct) is a relation between two planets in the natal chart that can’t really connect to each other in a traditional sense. They thus generate an inner conflict that you will always need to reconcile within you, in a clever, innovative, creative way. They have nothing in common, like two irreconcilable notions, energies, but they have to exist within the same person at the same time. They are like moving forward in the same direction but on different lifelines. It's like being able to hold two incompatible truths as true at the same time. The challenge is in finding how these two planets can work together when their energies are completely different.
Integrating and finding a way to live with the different energies is hard and requires constant practice and understanding of the self. Most of the time, such a conflict requires innovation and creativity in the approach. The best way to do this is to learn more about these 2 parts and to let them exist while you create a new neuronal path to connect them for the better.
Because, yes, any conflict leads to….connection.
The subject of this week’s newsletter came to me after experiencing +1 week of aggressive behaviour around me, in my projects, free time, etc. For the past days, starting Monday 10th of June, people felt even more crazy than ever. Misunderstandings, triggers, overly emotional reactions. In my own life, I had to deliver an important communication project that ended up in me quitting halfway through just to save my health. More, I had to witness the incredible episode of Coldplay concerts in Bucharest creating tension, hatred, disconnect in our own society. It’s been micro-bad and macro-bad.
And those wore the moments in which this seed of thought came to me as I was delving more into my astrology studies: how can we hear each other when we all right and wrong at the same time?
Well…we create a new path for our quincunx! A process I can recommend right now for all of you dealing with quincunxes in your world.
1.Settle in your own being. Gather the facts of a situation, but also feel the feels. According to psychotherapists, emotions point towards a need that’s not seen or met. Create the story for yourself, write it down, think of it or even tell it to your therapist (in whichever form he/she may come).
2.Disconnect a bit from the actual conflict, but mostly emotionally. Do something that nourishes your life, your body, your mind and soul. Stay with friends, cherish your family or companion animals. We need to heal ourselves first before we tackle any adversity. From that place of stillness and calm, we can make space to hear the other person’s story, no matter how different it is.
3.Accept that acceptance :) is key to solving any conflict. It happened, it’s bad, it’s real. Now…what do we do with the current situation is really up to us.
4.Reach out to the other side and see whether they are willing (and mostly, emotionally able) to re-connect and share their version of the experience. You can actually meet in person or have this conversation over the phone. I strongly recommend you to talk, not write. Give your time and attention intentionally to the conversation. Most of the times, a conversation is all you need to settle the conflict. Most of the times, people just need to be heard and seen for their own imperfect self.
If the situation is for the time being too hard to reconcile, let it be. Work on yourself. Find grace in whatever happened. Turn to God and handle it to Him. Accept that you are living in the aftermath only, not in the experience itself. Try not to relive it. Try to forgive it.
This might be a way to mould our lives into better lives. Our families into better families. Our communities into better communities. Our world into a desirable world. Find your original way to build, connect, liaison rather than separate, disconnect, harm.
If you need my support, I am here. I have also a lot of quincunxes in my own chart and life, so…I do what I preach (and write about). Write a short message at hello@roxanamarin.life or a whatsapp: +40745 020 957.
This week, I am also glad to announce the new release of my friend Astrolov: Tarotheia app.
Theia was the Greek goddess of sight and prophecies. So if you want to experiment with tarot, find insights for practical questions in your life, very well (and profound) written guidance texts, access it here for free.
If you want to find our more about Astrolov, check my 2023 interview with Lavinia below.
Until next Venus day Friday, hugs & kisses!
Roxana
